Detached involvement is the backbone of my coaching practice.
What is the difference between a coach and a mentor. A mentor has walked in your shoes before and can tell you what the best path was FOR THEM. As a coach, I believe that the best answers FOR YOU come from within you. I have the questions, you have the answers. Both mentors and coaches have their places when it comes to major life transitions, but when dealing with a mentor, remember, you are a unique and special person and your path is different from everyone else.
I am here to help people uncover their own personal solutions, not offer suggestions. We can brainstorm and I may throw out suggestions. I may see a point where 1 + 1 = 2 and my client is not seeing it. In that case, I will clarify the situation for them, but always I will make it clear that they can disagree with the observation.
I was speaking with a friend last week who was strongly encouraged by their mentors to rush their transition process. The idea was to transition quickly as a sign of commitment. Since this transition process involved physical changes, my friend wanted time to adjust to the changes. She stood her ground and proceeded at her own pace, and was happier because of it.
Because of detached involvement, I don't have to be a surgeon to coach a surgeon. I don't have to be a member of the LGBTQ community to coach someone from that community. In fact, when I coach an actor or a freelancer, I have to constantly monitor myself to make sure I don't slip over into that mentor role and start offering suggestions. I've walked in those shoes and I have to remember my path is not the same as my client's path.
I am emotionally involved with every client - detached involvement. This means that I celebrate and champion their successes. I struggle with them as they overcome their roadblocks. I have the wonderful blessing of traveling successful, fulfilling journeys with up to 14 people at any one time. Every day brings exciting milestones and amazing breakthroughs.
So when looking for a coach, it is perfectly normal to align with someone who is "just like you", but remember, no one is "just like you". Finding a coach who understands that and is passionate about helping you find your unique path is essential.
I am starting to take on a few new clients starting in April. I love meeting people by offering a free two-hour coaching session to see if we work well together. Send me a message, if you are interested. I work with people in transition to maintain balance in their life through the transition process in order to reach their full potential in all areas of their life.